We are heading into a new year and all things that have been said to us that hurt us, things that have happened that disappointed us, people who said they loved us but ended up leaving us alone... all of that hurt... it's in the past!
We’ve all been hurt. Heck, 30 minutes before I started writing this blog I got some disappointing news (ha!) and being hurt and disappointed sucks. I get that. But guess what? What you do with that hurt and disappointment is actually more important than the hurt itself.
Okay, how about this... Would you prefer to get back to doing YOU, getting on track and moving on? Or do you prefer to sit and sulk and continue to reminisce about the past and something that cannot be changed?
As a person who was diagnosed with a disease later in life, I can't lie. I grieve for my past, and who I was and what I was able to do before lupus. I tell people all the time, I was a social butterfly. I was everywhere, doing everything. But now, I'm lucky enough to have enough energy just to make it through the workweek. I've shed some tears over the old me. I've cursed at God over not being the old me, and exactly where has it gotten me? A trash can full of snotty tissue, puffy eyes, and headaches.
Now hold up now... I'm not saying that you can't cry or be hurt, we are human, and I'd be lying if I said I don't. What I am saying is, you've got to let it go. Don't harbor on the hurt. Move forward. Start this year off right by making the conscious decision to let go. To stop reliving the past pain thinking you need closure or trying to go over the details of what happened in your head every time you think of your situation. You have the power to create your own happiness and a step towards feeling happiness is really letting it go.
You are God's gift to the world, and your life is too precious for it to be defined by your pain. It’s not healthy, it adds unnecessary stress, and it hurts your ability to focus on your dreams that really matter. Hurt can even impact every other relationship you have (even the ones not directly affected by the hurt). Every day you choose to hold on to that pain is another day everybody (who loves you, might I add) around you have to live with your decision to not let that hurt go. You really feel like putting that kind of negative energy out in the world?
Now before you read this blog, you just told your best friend that you were over it, beyond past it, and that you were "straight" but have you REALLY let that hurt go? Think about it.
